You see some people suffer through breakups who seem completely unflappable. They never seem to lose their motivation or sense of self the way you have. You can’t find out why you’re having such as tough time while other men just move on to the next girl and make believe their worlds haven’t stopped turning altogether.
The truth is that for some men, the world hasn’t stopped turning. They are able to carry on because they never were fully committed to the relationship, to begin with. But you can’t seem to let go and move on. Is there a reason you’re unable to put history behind you and start to look towards the future again? The truth is there may be three.
1) Your Heart isn’t In It?
Your head may be ready to move on, break out there, and start playing around, but your heart still belongs to the girl that escaped. Your heart has you convinced that there’s still a chance, no matter how remote, and you wish to try to make things work. You’re still wishing to get her back even though your head is telling you it can’t happen.
2) You Like What You Had
You’re not ready to give up on it. It was good between both of you once upon a time. You believe, if you could just get her to see things your way, that it could be that great for the two of you again. It makes perfect sense to want to recapture something good that’s escaped you. It might even be possible. The place where you’re fuzzy is on how to make it happen.
3) You Don’t Think it’s Really Over
You believe that she still has feelings for you. They may be buried deep down inside, but you believe she still loves you. Chances are good that you’re right. Unfortunately for you, seeing the cold shoulder you’ve been getting lately, it looks like those feelings were buried very deep. The longer things go, though, the more time she will have to deal with those feelings and put them to rest. That’s good news for you because if you play your cards right and give her the space she needs, there’s a good chance she’ll rediscover that love for you.
The thing to keep in mind is that sometimes, it only takes going through the motions of carrying on to realize how you really feel. Or, perhaps, more importantly, to force her to confront how she really feels. While it’s never good, to play head games with the girl you love, sometimes it helps to let things ride a bit and see where circumstance take you.