We live in a time when people change relationships more frequently than they change hairstyles. Some people would call them disposable. Easy come. Easy go. But, what happens, when you think you’ve found the one. You know, the one they wrote epic poems about far back. The one that makes each relationship pale by comparison– at least as far as your relationship experiences are concerned. How do you stick to this special relationship while plenty of other couples are unable making it work?
The key word here is work. You have to work making relationships last. Fortunately for you, these six secrets for relationship success don’t always seem like the hard work they are.
1) Communicate. You need to communicate effectively with one another. That doesn’t simply mean you need to speak with one another. You have to also understand each other and get on the same page about many things in your relationships and in the lives you build together.
2) Connect. The physical connection between couples is vital to relationship longevity. It exceeds what takes place in the bedroom, however. You really do need the connection of human touch to help solidify your bond. Cuddle together on the couch, hold hands in the theater, and hug one another as often as possible. The more you touch, in a genuine and affectionate manner, generally speaking, the happier you are together.
3) Find common ground. Every relationship needs a little commutuality. These are the areas where both of you have shared convictions. Sometimes these convictions are based upon morals or religion. Other times they’re associated with causes or politics. Whatever your shared convictions may be, it’s a wise plan to cultivate that common ground and grow together.
4) Shared interests. This is a little different than commonalities. Your interests don’t need to be on the same scale. However, if you both love the ocean you might find that buying a sailboat, for instance, is a great way to feed the love of sailing the open seas for one while feeding the love of water and sunshine for the other. You both love the ocean and sailing gives you an opportunity to enjoy the important things you both love together.
5) Companionship. You must spend time together if your relationship is intending to work. Otherwise, there really isn’t a relationship to cultivate. Time is critical. Finding positive ways to spend your time together, even in troubling times, is a great way to build a stronger relationship together– especially if you’re both committed to the reason for making your relationship last.
6) Time apart. While it is essential to hang out as a couple to cultivate and grow the relationship, it’s also important to enjoy a little time beyond your partner’s company. You both need friends additional for blowing off steam, wise counsel, and a little break from the intensity of the relationship.
These six secrets may not look like all that much on a paper, but over the years, they will all make a huge difference in the strength and resilience of your relationship together. Keep them in mind at all times for best results.