No man intends to entertain the possibility that the object of his affections is considering walking away. However, it’s a worry that comes into most relationships at one point or another. Before you jump the gun though and make assumptions that simply aren’t true, it’s a smart idea to explore these signs she’s got leaving on her mind and what you can possibly do to make her love you again.
She’s Working Extra Hours
Baseding on a recent Daily Mail UK article, a wife who’s suddenly working extra hours, may be thinking about leaving. Many women often see extra hours of work as a type of insurance that they’ll be financially able to survive the burden of single living when they do leave the relationship. Ironically, the extra hours worked in the office, did not equate to a more equitable share of household duties, responsibilities, and childrearing.
What can you do to make her love you again if she’s working late? Perhaps now is the time to roll out the red carpet and show her what she’ll be missing if she does leave. While you don’t have to accomplish it all, make her feel that her extra hours are noticed and that you appreciate the effort she’s making on behalf of the family. Pitch in around the house a little bit. Offer her a “night off” during the week. Or simply offer her a back massage – no strings attached (unless she makes the first move). Little things are often what makes or breaks a marriage. Make them work in your favor for a change.
She’s Stopped Nagging
While most men initially intend to shot joyous expressions from the mountaintops, if your wife suddenly stops nagging, it may not be good news for your marriage. The average male hates few things more than he hates being nagged. It feels like getting a running dialog of how you’re not coming up to your wife’s expectations. It leaves you feeling angry and small (and neither inclined to perform the deed being requested– EVER).
The majority of the time, you even ignore the nagging completely. If it seems like your wife’s about to start nagging her monologue begins to take on the intonations of the teacher from Charlie Brown cartoons. So it may even take you a while to notice that she’s stopped asking/nagging you to do anything. Once you do, you may feel a moment of relief as well as the excitement that she’s finally gotten the message. The problem with that though is that the majority of the time it isn’t the message you wanted her to receive.
Frequently, for women, the decision to quit “nagging” is one that’s only made once she’s quit on rescuing the relationship. It means that she’s not most likely to try anymore. It’s a good sign that leaving is significantly on her mind.
What can you do when this is the case? You might have to do something totally out of character to win your wife’s affection once again. You have to start by speaking to one another. She feels unimportant to you because you’re not taking an interest in the many things she asks you to perform. You feel “put upon” or set down by her because she keeps asking you to do something you do not want to do. Somewhere in the middle is a solution that will benefit both of you. But, no one is going to find it if you keep ignoring the problem that’s ripping your marriage to shreds.
Sometimes the answers aren’t as easy as making her fall in love with you again. Love, after all, isn’t always the problem in divorce or breakups. The key is to have those conversations before things get out of hand and leaving is a card she’s considering playing.