Regardless of how down and out you feel about the ending of your relationship, it is essential to understand that it’s not completely your fault things didn’t go well. No matter what your ex-attempts to convince you, it takes two people making or break a relationship. It will take two people cooperating to put it back together again. You have to understand this and request for things to change before you get your ex back. These are the reasons that you deserve better in the future.
You Bring Value to the Relationship Too
Everyone in a relationship has a role to play and a contribution to make. Both of you bring something special and unique to the relationship. The key is to discover how to value your personal contribution to the relationship and call for the important things you need that you aren’t getting from the relationship. It’s also equally important that you invite your boyfriend to do the same and listen with an open mind when he does.
He’ll Respect You More For It
Respect is essential for men. They love being shown respect. Additional, they love it when the woman they love earns their respect. He wishes to be proud of you. He also wants to be proud to be associated with you. When you stand up for yourself and ask him to show you the respect you deserve, he will be a little surprised at first, but much more likely to deliver than if you never asked.
Respect is a Two-Way Street
It’s extremely important to show your man respect. It is just one of the absolute most important things you can possibly do for your man if you wish to keep him happy and make your relationship last. But you also have to expect it from him. Be careful about accepting anything less than the respect you deserve from him and for going back to him if he isn’t willing to give you the respect. Respect should never be given that it isn’t earned and it should never be sacrificed in the name of love.
Because You Deserve It
Back in the 1980’s, a prominent cosmetics company coined the phrase, “Because you deserve it.” The slogan was to remind women that they deserve the very best in cosmetics and hair care items because of all the things they do at home, at work, and in their relationships. While the slogan still circulates, the message has gotten lost in a large segment of women. You forget that you deserve respect. You’re worth it. Say it with me. “You’re worth it!” Now, remember that whenever tempers flare and disrespectful words are uttered or deeds are done and demand better later on – for the sake of your relationship and your sanity.
It’s insufficient to return to the way things were right before your breakup. You have to do better this time around. Better begins with asking for the things you need in the relationship and expecting to get them this time around.