If you’ve watched the news lately you’ve probably noticed that there’s been quite a stir over who misbehaves when men cheat. A prominent televangelist has suggested that aspect of the responsibility should be placed on the shoulder of the woman for not making the effort to overcome genetic predispositions.
While the “men are dogs” argument doesn’t fly in all corners of the Web-o-verse, it’s probably a smart idea to sit back and speculate over whether there could be some truth in the idea.
Now, I’m not advocating that men cheat or that women blindly forgive men who cheat. I’m not even saying that it’s a woman’s fault her man cheats. I am not even saying that one of the most diligent efforts by women will prevent cheating completely.
I can definitely say that doing these two things will definitely help keep his attention focused firmly on you and make another woman almost invisible to him. Would like to know what they are?
Get His Engine Running
Slip a reason for him to come home in the evening into his briefcase or lunchbox every day as he sets off for work. Whether it’s a snapshot, a steamy love note, or just a code word you create together, give him a reason to come racing home after he punches out at the office for the day.
And then?
Measure up to the promise you made in the morning. No matter how many things happen during your day to drag you down, you MUST make great on that particular promise to ensure that he’ll know what he’s likely in order to get every single time you drop one of your lunchbox/briefcase hints.
Show Him Your Adoration
Among men who cheat, the overwhelming reason why has nothing to do with the physical appearance of the other woman. As a matter of fact, most men who cheat have said they do not find the other woman more attractive than their wives. She’s not thinner, leggier, bustier, and she doesn’t have a bigger butt (sorry Mix-A-Lot).
It’s not about looks at all. The real reason men cheat on their wives, and can’t really help themselves, despite the risks it involves has to do with a single thing. She makes him feel adored, flattered, admired and respected. She doesn’t roll her eyes at his corny jokes. She clings to his arms and laughs. She makes the first move. She shows interest. She chases him and makes him seem like THE MAN. And THAT is his Kryptonite.
How do you beat this?
It may look like a tall order, but if you work really hard and reflect the early days when you dated, you should remember all the things you used to tell him that you don’t tell him today. You brought out the best in him by showing him that you believed he was the best and he wants that feeling back. He’s attempting to recapture that when he cheats. Give him that feeling at home– and give it to him often– and he’ll never have a single reason to stray.
These two things don’t require six spinning classes a day. They don’t require a second job. And, they don’t involve major personality changes. Most of these things are the sorts of things you did when you were first together and in love. Put them to work today and never worry about a cheating husband again. Is it your fault he cheated? No, but you CAN make a difference going forward.