In the first few days following a breakup, getting your ex back is probably all you can think of. It becomes a mantra playing repeatedly in your mind. Depending on the length of time and deeply involved the relationship may have been, it may be the only thing helping you hold onto a tiny bit of sanity as your mind goes to terms with what your heart has already discovered– the pain of loss.
It is essential to allow a little time to pass before you make your move and attempt to get your ex back. Why is that? Because sometimes it’s best to gain a little perspective and distance from the heartache you’re feeling at the moment.
Distance makes things possible for your ex to forgive hurtful words and deeds, forget the pain, and begin to consider the pleasure of being with you. Allowing time for some of the more pleasant aspects of your relationship to resurface in the heart and mind of your ex buys the amount of time you really will need to make a positive impression. Unfortunately, you have to want it really bad in order to do this. It takes a lot of discipline to hold off enough time for the good memories to come back to life.
That’s the problem many people in your shoes have, though. Finding the patience and strength of will it requires to really let your ex go and wait. Wait, however long it takes, for your ex to come back to you.
However, there are things you can do to fill your time to ensure that it doesn’t feel like you’re lingering forever for your ex to find back to his or her senses and realize what a catch you really are.
Get in shape
Whether you wish you were a little more muscular or wish to lose a few extra pounds, there’s no time at all like the here and now in order to get started. Not only will this leave a more attractive package when your ex does come calling, it’s a great way to boost your confidence, restore your self-esteem, and fill the hours that are no more devoted to hanging around with your ex.
Go back to school
Even if you aren’t returning for a degree. Many colleges are participating in the open culture of study these days. You can take classes at Harvard, Yale, and other top universities throughout the country free online. The knowledge you gain from these courses is invaluable even if you don’t gain a degree. Some programs offer certificates of completion that can help provide you with greater upward mobility in your chosen profession.
Concentrate on activities and interests that lift you up
We all have areas in our lives where we wish to see improvement. We all want to be better than we are in some ways. Now is the perfect chance for you to focus on being a better YOU!
While you’re busy doing all these things, your ex is busy missing you. More importantly, he or she is hearing, from others, about all the positive changes you’re making. Your ex is sure to intend to be a part of the improvements going on in your life. Now is the moment when your ex is probably to come calling. Do you know what you’re going to say when your ex does?