Bumping into an ex stirs a variety of emotions, so knowing the proper way to proceed may appear to be like unlocking the programming of a supercomputer. The good news is most of the ways to respond means a person escapes unscathed. In several situations, the experience provides beneficial insight into the individual, recent relationship and growth moving on.
General Facts
Knowing a few things about the encounter will permit a deeper understanding before acting. Often the need to respond to races in front of reasoning, so recalling the basics may be a great practice in settling into a calmer mood.
- They were caught off guard too: Though easy to take a myopic view, understanding everything being felt by one party is, more than likely, being felt at the other at the same time.
- Accept the situation: Acknowledging the fact the event happened can minimize the pressure.
- Keep it simple: A short conversation benefits everyone because there is no time for awkwardness in what is said or the silence.
Pitfalls and Problems
Bumping into an ex, per se, is a social landmine ready to explode taking self-esteem, existing friendships and current romantic relationships with it. The key to avoiding the pitfalls is to know they are there and step around them. For this to happen, a person needs a high level of emotional maturity and strength.
- The temptation to avoid them will occur early, but moving into the encounter directly will prevent the appearance of an emotional attachment.
- Speaking from a place of honesty about what is happening in one’s life demonstrates the healthy place one life while resisting the urge to downplay or oversell anything.
- Unless arising from the gym, paying attention to appearance shows the lack of a shattered life. This proves vital when attending an event with a high likelihood of running into one’s ex.
- Manage the conversation by not promising future plans and end the exchange at a natural stopping point without lingering.
- Try to act as naturally as possible and not be overly odd, even though the ex-found it charming, because this never begins as a “win them back” scenario.
- Regardless of the assessment or outcome, release the encounter asap or it might become an anchor dredging up the past.
Benefits of Running Into an Ex
If asked, the majority of people would struggle to find anything positive from an unexpected meeting with an ex. It is easy to see things from a negative viewpoint. However, numerous things doe surface following such an encounter. They may receive confirmation the decision proved for being the correct one, rekindle fond memories of a time of their life with other events they suppressed or be encouraged to visit a location they have avoided since the end of the relationship. These can all be considered as road markers on the destination to emotional maturity meaning a better chance for future relationships.
Though not the very first thing people consider when leaving a relationship, everyone should be ready when an ex walks back into their life. There are many fish in the sea, but they are all swimming in the same sea. Accepting and taking control of their half of the exchange means no one must be crippled by the “former” part of a former relationship.