Sometimes, in your quest in order to get your ex back, you need to think outside the box to achieve the results you really want. When your heart is breaking, when you’re in the midst of soul-wrenching suffering that often accompanies an unwanted breakup, all you can think of is making the pain stop.
Simple thought processes work best in times of great emotional distress. Breakup equals heartbreak. Makeup equals a world without pain.
If only it really were that simple.
You see, getting him back is only half the battle. Things weren’t suitable for everyone in the relationship or he wouldn’t have found it quite so simple to walk away. Most people don’t leave unless they really feel there’s something missing.
Understand, that I’m not saying it’s YOUR fault he left. Nothing may be further from the truth. Guys are notoriously terrible at even admitting they have needs at all in a relationship, much less at requesting for those needs to be met. In your defense, you can not possibly meet needs you don’t even know exist.
You’re no more of a mind reader than he is, after all. Just as he expects you to understand that, he can not read your mind. You must make it clear to him, when you do get back together, that you can not read his mind either.
So what’s this about letting him go?
Many girls in your shoes didn’t read past that point. The idea of letting him go is simply too terrible or tragic to even contemplate right now. But, what if that was the almost certain road to take for winning him back? Imagine it could more than double your chances for success in your efforts in order to get him back?
When you follow the right plan, and completely give him up as part of the plan, a minimum of as far as he and the rest of the world is concerned, your chances of success increase exponentially.
Why?
Because when you stop trying so hard to win him back, the real you begins to shine through. That’s when he’s more than likely to remember all the reasons he fell in love with you from the beginning. He doesn’t want you trying to please and placate– at least not when it means you’re pretending to become someone he knows you’re not.
Go back to the beginning if you want to progress. When you get there, leave all the weight behind and truly start with a clean slate. See what a difference that makes to your future and how well you’re rewarded by giving up on getting him back and concentrating on a completely new beginning instead.