Men really do have simple needs when it comes down to relationships. Despite their resistance to change, men have adapted well to the defecting “love, honor, and obey” (mostly the obey part of that being honest) as the commandment of all things relationship. However, that doesn’t imply that they don’t have needs of their own that must be addressed in turn for them to remain happy in their marriages. As a matter of fact, men have very strong needs – though he’ll likely never explain them to you. There are three overriding needs, though, that every girl needs to understand and meet in order to have a truly happy relationship with the man she loves.
1) Show Him Respect
You don’t have to bow down before him or anything like that. You don’t even have to defer to him, although, at the proper moments in the relationship this can really stroke his ego and make him fall even harder in love with you. The main ways to show respect are in how you interact. Don’t talk down to him. Don’t make him feel inferior. And for goodness sakes, avoid criticism– especially in the form of nagging– at all costs. This makes him feel as though you’re turning nose up at him and lack respect for him. It leads to “greener grass syndrome” and other negative feelings about you and your relationship.
It’s hard ladies, in order to get him to accomplish what you want sometimes. That’s usually a sign that he really doesn’t want to do the job – whatever the job may be. So, you have three choices that don’t involve nagging. Make him an offer that makes it worth his while in order to get the chore done by a specific time or date, do it yourself without holding a grudge (which may be easier said than done), or hire another person to work on it for the relationship. Even when money is tight, it’s sometimes better to pay another person to complete the jobs neither of you wants to do, but both want to be done. The respect you’re both able to maintain for each other by doing this is worth its weight in gold.
2) Admiration
Think long and hard. When was the first time you paid your handsome man a compliment? How about flirting? Do you participate in a little active flirting when you’re out in public, riding in the car, through text messages at the office? When was the last time you let him know that you still think he rocks his Levi’s? Little things such as this make a huge difference to the man in your life and in your relationship.
3) Loyalty
Never let him doubt your loyalty. There’s no bigger relationship killer for men than this. Don’t flirt with his buddy – or anyone else for that matter – in an attempt making him jealous. It will backfire on you every time. Don’t let him overhear you talking negatively about him around the girls. Show loyalty in all times and you can expect to receive the same sort of loyalty from him in return.
Don’t believe me? Give it a try and see how quickly things change between you – for the better.