You got the wind knocked out of your sails with the breakup. You had a few rough days, weeks, maybe even months. But, you finally started coming back out there in the real world.
You’re hitting the town with your friends. You’re exercising at the gym. And you’re trying like mad to at least seem like you’re getting on with your life – regardless of how much you want her back.
You’re doing good. You’re looking good. Girls are beginning to smile and flirt with you. You’re Superman.
Then BAM!
Out of the blue, she walks into the room and it feels like you’ve been hit in the gut with a kryptonite fist.
Your mouth gets dry. Your palms get sweaty. Your tongue suddenly feels like it weighs a thousand pounds and you’re caught between a sudden overwhelming urge to flee and a simultaneous but equally powerful urge to beg her to take you back.
What do you do?
You say something about how it’s great to see her and make a hasty retreat.
It’s only after you’re out of her presence that you begin to think about all the things you could have, should have, or would have said if you ‘d had the ability to think clearly at the time.
Then you engage in a fantasy replay of how things would have shaken out if you ‘d just had the ability to speak. But, wouldn’t it be nice if you could think of these things ahead of time and have a great idea of what to say to her when the moment arrives?
Believe me, it would! Especially if you’re interested in getting her back.
Stop getting sucker punched by her presence. Take back the power and let her see you in a new light. You can control the conversation and how it plays out as long as you plan ahead for when that moment comes.
I’m not talking about arranging an “accidental” meeting. That’s not the right idea in this situation. But, you do want to have a prepare for what you’ll say to her when your paths do cross to ensure that you don’t look like you’re either avoiding her, running away from her or angry with her for the breakup.
Time heals a bunch of old wounds. You could be surprised to discover that she’s probably just like nervous about the encounter as you are – even though she’s the one who broke up with you.
So what should you say?
- Keep it short.
- Keep it light.
- Avoid bringing up the past – leave that to her.
Keep these things in mind. Write a script on your own. Memorize the script. Practice it in the mirror. Do whatever you need to do so that its force of habit and the next time your paths cross you’ll be ready.