All’s fair in love and war. Believe me, when love gets on the skids, it certainly feels like war. We all know that the army with superior forces and sound strategies is the most certain of victors in any war. The same holds true when the war is for the heart of someone who has taken her heart back. These strategic moves are sure to improve your odds.
#1 Give her space
It may sound counter-intuitive right now, but it is essential to give her a little breathing room to figure out what it is that she really wants. Give it to her.
#2 Be absent from her life
She’ll never realize how much you mean to her or how much she misses having you around if you’re always there for her when she needs you. This is not the way to win her back. It’s rewarding her by giving her all the best of you without requiring the same from her in return. That’s not how successful relationships work.
#3 Make her come to you
Don’t call, text, email, visit, etc. Don’t go to her. Instead, wait. Then, make her come to you. Let her be the one who sees that breaking up was a mistake. Let her figure out just how much she really does miss having you in her life. Let her come to you.
#4 Don’t be overly eager
As a matter of fact, work very hard on your composure. Practice what you’ll say if you bump into her. Work on the words, the phrases, and the overall message you intend to send. Ensure she knows you’re doing just fine without her in your life.
#5 Show the world you haven’t fallen apart
Women like strong men, no matter what they tell you. It may be that you have a girl who enjoys your sensitive side, but thousands of years of history show that women are attracted to men of strength, especially in times of adversity. Don’t fall apart. More importantly, don’t let the word spread if you do fall apart after the initial breakup.
#6 Stop pretending for being someone you’re not in hopes of getting her back
Any ground you gain by pretending will be lost quickly once you begin dating again. You can’t pretend forever. She’ll eventually see through the exterior. If you wish to make real, lasting changes, that’s great. Don’t pretend, however, that you’ve changed core things about yourself only for the sake of winning her back. It doesn’t serve either of you in the long run and can set you back even further in your efforts to win her heart all over again.
Develop a plan before you make your next move, if you haven’t made on already. If you’ve already made a few mistakes attempting to get her back, take this time around to go back and come up with a strategy before making your next move. Remember these strategies in order to help you get her back as well.